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Happy wife key to happy life for men: study

Posted by Unknown | Sunday, September 14, 2014 | Posted in , ,



A husband who is unhappy with his marriage is still likely to be happy with his life — if his wife gives their marriage high marks, a new study suggests.

“Older husbands and wives in better marriages are more satisfied with their lives,” said Vicki Freedman, a research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research.

“But overall life satisfaction for an unhappily married man depends on how his wife describes their relationship. If she describes their marriage as higher quality, his life satisfaction is buoyed — even if he gives the marriage a less glowing assessment,” said Freedman, a co-author with Rutgers University sociologist Deborah Carr.

The research is among the first to examine the influence of his and her marriage appraisals on psychological well-being among older couples.

“Marital quality is an important buffer against the health-depleting effects of later-life stressors such as care-iving, and a critical resource as couples manage difficult decisions regarding their care in later life,” Carr said.

Freedman and Carr analysed 2009 data from a sample of 394 couples who were part of the ISR Panel Study of Income Dynamics, a national panel study of a representative sample of US families. At least one spouse in each couple was aged 60 or older.

They found that life satisfaction and momentary happiness did not differ significantly by gender. Both husbands and wives, on average, rated their general life satisfaction as 5 out of 6 and happiness very close to 5.

They also found that husbands rated their marriages slightly more positively than wives, on average.

“For both husbands and wives, being in a better-rated marriage was linked to greater life satisfaction and happiness,” Carr said.

“But wives’ assessments of the marriage are more important in some respects than their husbands’ reports,” she said.

The study was published in the Journal of Marriage and Family.

111-year-old US man Alexander Imich crowned as world's oldest by Guinness

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A 111-year-old US parapsychologist 
man has been crowned the world's oldest living man by the Guinness World Records.


Guinness announced Dr Alexander Imich, a parapsychologist and retired chemist, from the New York City as the new oldest living man.

The latest record was verified after the previous title holder Arturo Licata of Italy passed away last month aged 111 years and 357 days.

Imich was born in present-day Czestochowa, Poland, which was then part of the Russian Empire, on February 4, 1903.

In 1951, he and his wife, Wela, immigrated to the US from the Soviet Union and Imich has lived in Manhattan alone since she passed away in 1986, Guinness said.

While his own longevity has surprised even himself, Imich credits his life to good genes and an overall moderate, healthy lifestyle by which he has eaten very leanly his entire life.

Imich's passion and curiosity about parapsychology shaped his motto, which is that one should "always pursue what one loves and is passionate about."

Robert Young, Senior Gerontology Consultant for Guinness World Records, verified the latest achievement by utilising Imich's birth record, immigration papers and university records.

Stuart Claxton, a Guinness World Records Official, visited Imich in his home in Manhattan's Upper West Side to present him with his official plaque.

Imich's history and recognition encompasses a variety of milestones, Guinness said.

"He is both the oldest living war veteran and the first 'oldest living man' to hold a doctorate," Young said.

Misao Okawa of Japan, who is aged 116, is currently recognised by Guinness as the world's 'Oldest Living Person' overall. She was born on March 5, 1898 and lives in Osaka.

The greatest fully authenticated age to which any human has ever lived is 122 years, 164 days by Jeanne Louise Calment of France, said Guinness.


An Astrological Roadmap From Kerala

Posted by Unknown | Wednesday, April 2, 2014 | Posted in ,



C. P. Krishnan Nair looks and acts every bit the army captain he once was. He walks ramrod straight. He dresses neatly and fastidiously, paying attention to every item and accouterment of his attire, choosing carefully from gaily colored and well tailored suits from Italy, the United States and Britain. He invariably wears what Britons call braces and the more sartorially plebian Americans refer to as suspenders. He looks you directly in the eye. He speaks firmly and fluently.Everybody calls him "Captain." Some call him "Chairman." Very few would venture to call him by his first name, even though he's tickled pink when close friends say "Krishnan." The name, he says, always bring to mind the way his parents addressed him. However, as an author writing his biography who's spent a year following him around, I have never taken the liberty of calling him by his first name -- nor has he invited me to.Most people think he's of uncertain age, and it's easy to assume that the yoga and rigorous exercise he undertakes daily explain his unlined face and vigorous handshake. Very few people are able to ascertain that Captain Nair, in fact, marked his 93rd birthday this past February 9.If you believe in astrology, Captain Nair's February birthday makes him an Aquarius, according to the Western zodiac.According to the literature, such people are always in pursuit of excitement; Aquarius-born folks love to make people laugh as it makes them feel good about themselves. Most people feel nourished by a session with him. In their conversations with him, most people get the impression that, like Aquarius-born folks, Captain Nair would love to do whatever he could to make the world a better place. He is, in a manner of speaking, a natural philanthropist and humanitarian.He's also, in a definite manner of speaking, an enormously curious man who, like many Aquarians, constantly searches for intellectual stimulation. You could run through each letter of the alphabet and come up with a subject with which Captain Nair is well acquainted. The man has read exhaustively; but even more importantly for him, he engages everyone who meets him in lively conversation. There are great yields for him in such encounters -- he absorbs new information, he obtains tidbits of knowledge, and, yes, he soaks up gossip.As the literature also suggests about Aquarians, routine bores Captain Nair. Not only does he come up with inventive ideas in his business, his body language suggests a certain impatience with the status quo. If an Aquarius gives his word, he will stick to it. Captain Nair's loyalty to his colleagues and associates gains him an enduring place in people's hearts and minds.He can be stubborn, of course, and sometimes he can be downright obstinate. It's not easy to convince an Aquarius to change his points of view, and this certainly applies to Captain Nair, as his subordinates will tell you -- although not within his earshot.And he can show flashes of temper -- as his subordinates will also tell you, and this, too, not within his earshot.So who is this C. P. Krishnan Nair?He was born into a rural family of modest means. After winning a life scholarship at the age of 10 from the Maharaja of Chirakkal in North Kerala, Nair obtained his education in Madras. He then became an aide -- at the age of 14 -- of Netaji Subhash Chandra Bose, and came into close contact with Gandhi, Nehru, Patel, and other leaders of India's Freedom Movement. As a teenager, he was even put into jail by the British. These early experiences made Nair determined to make a contribution to the development of a free India.After enlisting in the army's Maratha Light Regiment, Nair rose to rank of captain, and was later befriended by giants such as Lord Louis Mountbatten, and V. P. Menon. At the insistence of his wife, Leela, he left the army in order to promote his father-in-law's textile business. He transformed that Kerala-based business into a successful national handloom enterprise.His success in reviving India's handloom industry emboldened Nair to launch an export business. He invented "Bleeding Madras" textiles -- which became the rage in the United States -- and also sparked what would become a multibillion-dollar garment export industry. His textile company, Leela Scottish Lace, became one of the most prosperous enterprises of its kind in India.Nair himself is credited with being the "father" of globalization of India's garment and textiles industries. He overcame thickets of bureaucratic and governmental regulations through a canny mix of intuition, charm, guile and foresight. His friendships with stars such as Gregory Peck, Marlon Brando, Elizabeth Taylor and the Rajmata of Gwalior, made him a celebrity -- and attracted more business for his fabrics.Acting on an idea that his uncle V. P. Menon -- who'd been the mastermind of the consolidation of princely states into the modern Indian polity -- had once planted in his mind, Nair started The Leela Group of Palaces, Hotels and Resorts. Bankers were unwilling to lend him money at first. But Nair persisted. Today, his eight super-luxury properties are considered among the world's finest. More hotels are being built across India and abroad. But these are uncertain days for the hospitality industry in India, and The Leela hotels have a huge debt that is being currently restructured.Does that worry him?"I didn't necessarily enter this business only for profit," Captain Nair says. "I wanted to put India on the world map in the hotel business. That has happened, I think."He was 65 years old when he launched The Leela hotels in Mumbai. Captain Nair often remembers that when his family had asked for the hand of his wife-to-be, Leela, in their native town of Kannur in Kerala, an astrologer had predicted that the young man would multiply by thousands the kind of wealth Leela's family already enjoyed.More predictions, anyone? Captain Nair, the Aquarian, is always game to make good things happen.

'Equal' marriages leave men sexually deprived?

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According to a study, there is a connection between the types of chores the men do and the frequency of sex. 


"When men did more masculine types of chores, things like taking out the trash or fixing the car as opposed to doing only feminine chores, those couples had sex more frequently than the couples in which the men did the more feminine chores," psychotherapist Lori Gottlieb was quoted as saying. 

If you share the chores with your spouse, the two of you have a 'peer marriage', an egalitarian partnership. 

But according to Gottlieb, "it turns out that the women reported higher sexual satisfaction in traditional couples as well". 

Gottlieb's recent article titled 'Does a More Equal Marriage Mean Less Sex?' in The New York Times has sparked a debate over 'traditional' and 'equal' marriage and why 'peer' marriages appear to have lost that sexual spark. 

For this, she looked at a study where couples in both traditional marriages and egalitarian marriages were surveyed about their sex lives. 

When the men did no chores, they were also having the least sex, said Gottlieb, author of the bestseller "Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough". 

"The best way for couples to overcome this is for them to determine what they are getting out of their marriage, and to appreciate their spouse for what they do," a report on WRVO public media website quoted Gottlieb as saying. 

According to Gottlieb, "People's lives are so blurred because of the 'sameness', because of everything that they are doing together, that they do not really have a separate spear for this aspect of their lives." 

Sameness is referring to a couple who has a lot in common, as opposed to a couple who has an "opposites attract" dynamic. 

It is important for couples with 'sameness' to communicate about sex and make the time to separate that part of their marriage out, she noted.